Hello! I'm John!
I'm a husband, a father, and a follower of Christ. Over the course of my life, I've been on a lot of adventures and in 2018 I discovered the Invisible Trap.
While serving in the US Army, I began to struggle with anger, anxiety, and overall, I was not doing well. I projected my negativity onto the people around me and began to isolate myself from others. I felt like there was a looming problem in my life and while I couldn't point to it, it was around me everywhere. I believed my leadership did not support me. I believed I was going to be another statistic in the military community.
After taking two leadership courses in back to back weeks, I began to explore how I felt and what I thought. I started to realize how important our beliefs are. One morning I woke up at 2AM and it was if all the chaos and disorder was organized and made sense. I wrote a leadership paper in which I discovered the basis for the Invisible Trap.
I quickly realized a 10 page paper on organizational leadership is not something people are typically interested in. I also realized this concept is shallow enough for a child not to drown, yet deep enough for an elephant to swim. (Augustine) I wanted to communicate the power of our beliefs and help people understand the source of the emotional distress. When we are angry, frustrated, and scared, we can regulate those emotions by challenging what we believe in that moment.
Having a small daughter at the time, I wanted to help her develop the tools she would need to regulate her emotions. I realized emotional intelligence is about validating our emotions by acknowledging them and exploring the beliefs they're rooted in.
The underlying thesis of my organizational leadership paper became the basis for a children's book titled "The Invisible Trap". I hope parents and children alike can explore the concepts in "The Invisible Trap". I believe BOTH parents and children can grow in their capacity to endure trauma by reading this book. And, more importantly, I hope "The Invisible Trap" helps them heal from trauma they may have already been exposed to.